Have you signed up for the lifetime girlfriend program?
Maybe you have and you just don't know it.
My dad had a phrase he would say to me and my siblings
"you need to get off the lifetime kid program" ..."don't be on
the lifetime kid program" ... He would say this if he found us being
spoiled, or not working hard enough for the things we wanted and relied on him
and my mom.It's not a program you want to be on lol. So I'm taking it and
making my own phrase "Don't you be on that lifetime girlfriend
program!!!"
My definition is
slightly different. MOST women don't know they're signed up for the lifetime girlfriend
program. They are so used to doing things a certain way and they are yet to
change receiving the same exact results. MOST of the time women are subscribed
to this program subconsciously, we don't even realize it.
I was watching a show last night "Catfish" on
MTV and the girl said "all she dreams is to be is (insert guys name)
girlfriend"...Not only is that sad but, I think people need to remember to
be careful of the things they say. -- Proverbs 18:21 Death and life are in the power of the
tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits--
You have the power to speak things into existence. Now
you keep saying that's all you aspire to be is so and so's girlfriend that's
all your gonna be. Christian women, we should not aspire to JUST be someone's
girlfriend. We are called for SO much more! Marriage is a ministry! BOYFRIENDS
DO NOT GET HUSBAND BENEFITS!!
I think the world, the media, the movies; the music has
painted such an "attractive" picture of dating that Christians today
forget the values and morals we are to uphold when dating.
I will be honest; I NEVER courted the way God intended.
When I dated it was based on what me and my current boyfriend wanted, God was
NOT in those relationships at all!(hence why they failed, hence why I'm
single!!) -- I know you’re like so why should i listen to you then you haven't
courted God's way-- Well you don't have to listen to me lol but I've been
through enough relationships to know right from wrong, plus now I'm being led
by the holy ghost that's why I've been single for as long as I have been. I'm
choosing to do things God's way. I have allowed myself time to rest, and in
that resting period God has shown me my worth, he has shown me my value in him,
he has healed my heart time and time again. My heart is made whole, and it's
only because of God. You can't expect your heart to heal if you’re running in
and out of relationships. You need to rest and let God work on you
Philippians 2:13 for it is God who works in you, both to
will and to work for his good pleasure.
The world tells us the only way to get a man is to chase
him, show off our bodies, let him "test" our equipment, let him live
with us etc.
I'll tell you now, the world’s way of dating are going to
keep you subscribed to the lifetime girlfriend program. You will not get a
godly man doing things like the world.
Those behaviors will KEEP you on the lifetime girlfriend program, and
being on the lifetime girlfriend program is not to say you will be with the
SAME guy (sorry to burst your bubble). That guy is going to see how easy it is
to get what he wants time and time again, after a while he's going to get tired
of it... you know that saying "why buy the cow when you can get the milk
for free".. SOME men think like that, granted those aren't the men you
should be dealing with, but if you’re on the lifetime girlfriend program you
probably don't care.
I believe the way God presented Eve to Adam is the way he
will do it for us, if we do things his way. I've heard and seen so many success
stories on couples doing things God's way and are with who God created for
them. (Heather and Cornelius Lindsey for example)
I know it's not easy because we live in a world where we
get answers and results at a drop of a dime, but that's not what being a
Christian is all about. We are now currently waiting for our Savior to come
back. We have NO idea when he's going to come back, but we aren't rushing him.
So why are we rushing him when it comes to relationships? Because everyone is
in them? Because we don't want to "be alone" Why do we do this? I
think it all comes back to trust. We have to trust that when God said he was going
to give us the desires of our heart he will. We have to stop focusing on the
desire and focus on God.
I desire to be a wife a helpmate, but only to the man God
created for me. I know that it’s not about me.
Just because a man is fine to me doesn't mean a thing if he doesn't live
for God! It's not about us people it's ALL about the building of the Kingdom. Put
aside your selfishness and let God move when HE wants to move.
2 Corinthians 5:17
Therefore if any
man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold all
things are become new.
Put aside these lifetime girlfriend tendencies, let’s
stop feeding and glorifying our flesh and glorify God and his will.
This walk is all about sacrifice and obedience right? I
think we're going to have to sacrifice certain things in order to guard our
hearts. For me personally I just cannot listen to secular music (unless it's
like old school) ....I think I touched on the reasons in my post about music...
I know I just can't sit around listening to love songs and stuff. It's not to
say I'm weak, I just know me and I know that I have no business listening to
it. After a while I just lost my desires to continue in the things before I got
serious about this. I also don't watch certain tv shows or certain movies. It's
imperative that we guard our hearts people. You’re not weak for doing so. You’re
very strong for recognizing area's that you may stumble in or have a hard time
in and to stay away from it.
It takes a strong person to put aside their will and take
on God's will. Don't let anyone tell you anything other than that.
So ladies let's strive to be worked on by God, let's
allow him to work on us and let's allow him to tell us when we should move and
get into a relationship.
Pay attention to the red flags also ladies. We should
have standards, and they should be based on biblical stand points.. 6'3 185 lbs
brown skin.. NO that's not a standard.. lol get real standards okay?! And while
you’re busy making that list make sure you can pass your own check list. I
think it's important that we are right with God ourselves before we go thinking
we're ready for a man. We both should be in a good healthy consistent
relationship with Christ that is bearing fruit!!! (It’s too easy to play a Christian
these days; I need to see some fruit hunny)
-Also watch out
for those men that say God told them you’re his wife... God is not the author
for confusion; I believe God will tell both of yall.
Notice Adam recognized Eve as his wife, and she
recognized him as her husband too...
We can do this God's way ladies!! Keep your trust and
faith in him at all times!!
If you love someone tell them
I Love you
Destaynee
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