Sunday, September 29, 2013

Be The change you want to see

            The other day at work, a co-worker and I noticed a lady in the parking lot who had her hood open on her car. It was obvious she was having car problems. I said to my co-worker “Hey, you know a lot about cars, maybe you can go help her”. (I said it jokingly, but I was serious). He replied. “I don’t get paid to do that”. And I said well sometimes it’s okay to do things without getting paid, if you’re helping someone that’s payment enough”. He goes on to say “the way the world is, everything is about money”. Forgetting that he might not be saved I say “Just because the world changes doesn’t mean we have to.” That’s when another co-worker comes out of no-where and says “Well people aren’t born racist, the world MAKES us that way”. I just stopped and let them go on agreeing on how the world “makes us” certain ways.  I knew the conversation would go nowhere, because they were looking for an argument, not a debate. (Every invitation to an argument, does not require an RSVP, it’s okay to walk away, or just but quiet sometimes)

            After that conversation I was reminded of a song by Lyfe Jennings that I head many years ago, I can’t remember the title of the song, but in the song he says “be the change you want to see, don’t be a nickel out her looking for a dime”. In this song he was referring to relationships, and having standards for others, but not meeting those standards yourself. Which then made me think of being a Christian. The change that takes place, the transformation that happens, or is continuously happening. No man nor woman walking this earth is perfect, but that doesn’t mean we can’t strive to live life to please our most perfect God.

            Once a person accepts Jesus Christ into their life as their personal Lord and savior and transformation happens. You can’t physically feel it, but it happens. All of your sins are washed clean. There is no record kept of your wrongs, you have been made into a NEW creature. Exciting right?! But it doesn’t end there. There are constant changes that SHOULD be happening as you grow in Christ, but you have to WANT to make those changes. See a lot of Christians, like to say “God isn’t finished with me yet” when they make mistakes. No if you’re alive he’s not done, you still have an assignment to complete and he is still shaping you into being the man or woman of God he has called you to be. The problem happens when people use phrases like that to justify their wrong doing. To justify their sin or “imperfections”. We’re all imperfect, but we don’t HAVE to purposely sin, or live IN sin. There is a difference in not being perfect and choosing a life of sin, or making the decision to sin.

            Believe it or not, I used to curse, and I could curse with the best of em if I was made or upset. Back then, I could probably say “well they MADE me curse them out with their ignorance”, and that my friend would be ignorant. I made a choice to use those words back then. Since I’ve been delivered and made whole I choose NOT to use curse words. I know the power my tongue has and I make a choice, to use my words to encourage, uplift, teach and comfort people, not purposely tear them down and hurt them. (You guys know the song it goes “I won’t hurt you with words from my mouth, I love you I need you to survive”). We deal with foolishness on a regular basis, especially being a Christian in this world, we have a target on our backs, but no matter how ignorant or foolish a person can be towards me, they can’t “make” me say anything, I don’t already plan on saying. I have control over my words, the situation does not control my reaction. 

            Just like any other sin. Yes we may be tempted to sin, but they devil can’t MAKE you sin. Even as God doesn’t force us to do anything. (Although when you are REALLY living for Christ, your willingness to please God will have you sensitive to sin to the point, you won’t even want to be around it, let alone partake in it. Also the conviction of the Holy Spirit, will have you stop dead in your tracks, but that’s if you’re being led by him and listening to him and allowing him to move. Now if you ignore the Holy Spirit, don’t try to say “well if God didn’t want me to do it, I won’t have a way”, because that’s a lie. You have a choice every day to do right by God, or to do right by your sinful nature. With EVERY temptation there is an escape, there is always an opportunity to resist.

            Now the word change is a verb, a verb is an action word that means something has to happen. Change means “make or become different.”

            To make or become different you have to make the choice to do so. Even when a person decides to give themselves to Christ, they are making a choice, and they have to do something in order for that to happen. Romans 10:9 says “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.” (We are saved by grace, but you must believe, which means you have to make a choice to believe that God sent his son and rose him up).

            Once a person has been saved. Changes should still be happening. You should never get stagnant in where you are in Christ, you should always be growing. That means you have to focus on you and the area’s which you need work in. It’s so easy to look at someone else and point out their flaws and where they need work, but are you first looking to yourself? Someone asked me the other say if a person can preach something they haven’t dealt with themselves. My answer is no. There is no way a person can effectively preach No fornication, when they are currently living in that sin themselves. There is just no way. So we have to work on ourselves, be delivered from something’s before we can effectively try to preach to others about those things. Cut out your sin and insert the word. Don’t be a hypocrite. Matthew 7:5 says “Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eyes; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out of the mote out of thy brother’s eye.” In order to make a change, you have to be the change. Deal with yourself before you can “deal” with others.

James 1:22 says “But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves. For if any be a hearer of the word, and not a doer, he is like unto a man beholding his natural face in a glass: For he beholdeth himself, and goeth his way, and straightway forgetteh what manner of man he was. But whoso looketh into the perfect law of liberty, and continueth therein, he being not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, this man shall be blessed in his deed.”

            We have to practice what we “preach” or “preach” what we practice. There should be a point in a Christian’s life were they make the choice to not just sit in Church on Sunday, and leave everything they heard there in the sanctuary, but actually takes what they hear and learn in church and at home in their own private time with God and puts it to work. It’s time to be practicing Christians. So many young Christians say they “hate religion”, but if you’re not living out what you believe, you have fallen into the religious trap that you hate. Be the change you want to see. If you want to grow deeper in Christ, start making changes. Take your prayer life to another level, get active in ministry, and be serious about living your life for Christ. Things have to happen if you want changes within yourself. Once you’ve made the changes within your own self, people from the outside will see, and the people I’m referring to is the unsaved. Once you get your live in line with living for Christ, non-believers will see the Christ within you, and hopefully that will be a perfect way to be a witness and tell someone the good news of Jesus Christ!

            Time to get serious about being a Christian folks. It’s not enough to just say it, you have to have some fruit to show for it. The only way to have the fruit, is to make those changes. The fruit a person bears cannot be faked. You can fool people in church; online and at work with your words and the raising of your hands, but when it’s time to collect those fruits, you can’t fake a rotten fruit, with a ripe one.

If you love someone tell them

I love you


Destaynee.

Wednesday, September 4, 2013

Pity Parties don't win souls!

Just because you’re going through doesn't mean you have to act like it.

A few years ago I suffered from depression. I was sad and upset all the time about various things in my life. I had the longest on going “turnt up” pity party anyone could have. I was still praying, but I wasn't praying with faith. Basically I was going through the motions. I was so focused on the areas of my life that I felt weren't how they should’ve been that I wasn't able to appreciate the many blessings I did have. I was so depressed that I was tired of being depressed. I was tired that my life had come down to this. At this point I was a car less, stay at home single unemployed mom. I was in the house day In and day out never leaving unless it was to take my son to Dr’s appointments, school, to church, or go out if I had a baby sitter. It was pitiful.

One day I was fed up, I said I can’t live my life like this there HAS to be more. I don’t want my son to see mommy depressed like this I want him to see me happy. (Although he was fairly young, I know he was still watching me) So I made it my business to come out of this depression. We’ll I made it my business to ask God to help me get out of it. I had to let him know I was ready to be free from this. See people forget, although God is all knowing, if you want something you still have to ask for it. Just like when you want to be forgiven, you have to ASK him to forgive you. God is not a genie; this is a relationship that requires communication. Talk to him; tell him what you need, let him know you’re done doing it on your own and you’re ready for him to take over. This is around the time I heard Kirk Franklin and Mali music’s new song “give me that”. This song became my prayer. I would recite this song as my prayer daily.

The chorus “Give me that joy I can’t explain, add extra peace that’ll ease the pain, I want that love that’ll never change give me that, give me that. Give me that power to walk away when another god wants to take your place, as much of you as I can take, give me that, give me that. I choose you today, cause I need you today, I can’t get away see there’s no escape, see what you done to me, I’m not the same old me, you took away everything, now your my everything”
The Hook:
“Give me that God who breathes life, unto the nostrils of man, and sovereign God who predestined creation me from time again. I want the God who with brilliance and elegance decorates a darkness with stars. The God who orchestrates the future at the same time he knows where you are. Give me that God who supplies my needs cause he owns all the cattle on the hill. And he’s the God who wipes my tears and provides enough to pay all my bills, give me that God, that’s the God I’m talking bout.”

To this day this is still one of my favorite songs ever, but this became my prayer. I listened to this song, every day. I desperately wanted to come out of the state of depression I was in. And by the grace and the power of God I did. I was no longer depressed, and as I took my eyes off me and what I thought wasn't right and focused on God and his awesomeness things started to change. I got a job, a car and daycare for my son. All within 6 months, my situation had changed drastically.To God be the glory!

Depression is a state of mind, a stronghold that can’t be cured by pills, shots and other forms of medication. Jesus is the only one that can heal you from your depression. 

Isaiah 53:4-5 says” Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.  But he was wounded for our transgressions; he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.
Jesus is the answer, I’ am a witness he has healed me! (Check out my post “So You’re depressed? You’re not alone”)

The thing about depression is if you aren’t careful you can end up conditioning yourself to be in that state of sadness.

Past few weeks have been rough physically, mentally, spiritually. (I blogged about it in my last post.) I’ve been all about work and being exhausted physically, I wasn’t giving myself the time with God I needed. Spiritually I’ve been fighting this war at my job, and with the lack of time spent with God, it’s like I was “shooting blanks”. My weapons weren’t polished; I would sometimes leave without having the full armor on. I wasn’t properly prepared for war, because I didn’t spend the time getting ready because I let work take up all my time. So with all of that going on it’s inevitable that one would get weary, and in my case depressed. I wasn’t as depressed as I was in the past, but I was pretty low. I was looking more at the problems that were arising. Trying to fight this fight without God, the general, the one I was to be looking to for guidance and instructions. Before I knew it, I was turning up for another pity party.

It’s like everything I just heard a few weeks ago from revival went out the window. Thankfully The Holy Spirit doesn’t play that! Lol He put me in check with the quickness, and he used some people that probably don’t even know they were being used to do so.

The Holy Spirit reminded me, that this life is not my own. It’s not about me; I don’t have time to be “sad” about things that are surfacing in my life. I don’t have time to be so focused on me that I forget what my purpose on this earth is. He reminded me that if the fouls of the air have enough sense to understand that God takes care of their every need, why don’t I? The lilies in the field aren’t concerned about how they are going to grow, who’s growing with them, when they are going to grow or where. They just grow, they have sense enough to know that God is working it out; they just have to do what they were purposed to do. The lilies and the fouls of the air do not reap nor do they sow, yet everything the need is provided for. Are we not more than the birds? We our God’s children, his workmanship, don’t you know he is going to take care of your every need? We can’t be anxious about things especially when God owns and controls everything. Philippians 4:6 says “Be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God”

2 weeks ago before church


We have to understand being a Christian isn’t like any other religion. We don’t have to go to a priest, pope, anything to speak to God. We have the power and the right to speak directly to God. Jesus Christ broke the veil when he rose from the grave. We have direct access to God. We have to get in the habit of taking our problems to God no matter how big or small. Nothing is too “petty” to take to God. 1 Peter 5:7 “Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you”. That means God cares about the things you care about so give them to him!

Our main purpose in life as a Christian is to spread the gospel. Preach and teach God’s word, near and far. You don’t have to have a title before your name to do so. As a Christian, you are to be a witness to the unsaved.

 You can’t win souls by having a pity party!

Unsaved people need to see God’s glory. They need to see what he is doing or what he has done for you. If you’re just as sad and depressed as them, but claiming you know Jesus Christ, how is that going to want them to get to know him? -I’m not saying Christians should never get sad, we are humans and sadness is a human emotion, but we don’t have to dwell in it. We don’t have to wallow in sadness, and if you aren’t careful you can condition yourself to constantly being sad.- We are Joint heirs with Jesus Christ! We have power and authority, we are royalty! We have no business walking around depressed. We have a father in heaven that cares so much about us that he is grieved when we are grieved. He does not want us to live a sad depressed life. Nehemiah 8:10 says “The he said unto them, Go your way, eat the fat, and drink the sweet, and send portions unto them for whom nothing is prepared: for this day is holy unto our Lord: neither be ye sorry; for the joy of the Lord is your strength.”

The joy of the Lord is our strength! It’s that joy that gets us through these days. It’s that joy that allows us to put on a smile and love others when everything around us is crumbling down. It’s that joy that allows us to stand tall with our head held high when we are facing attacks. It’s that joy that reminds us to count our blessings over our short comings. It’s that joy that allows us to love people that have hurt us and done harm unto us. The joy of the Lord is our strength and it’s that joy that keeps us zealous in these tiring times. It’s that joy that we depend on to get us through. The joy; that the world can’t take because it didn’t give it to us.

I pray for everyone experiencing depression especially those within the body. I pray that they surrender their burdens and give them to God. I pray that they trust God with their issues and allow him to fix those areas in their life, renew their mind and create in them a clean heart. 

God will not force himself on anyone; you have to go to him, make your requests known, trust him with them and believe him for it. Believe that God will do exactly what he said he can do. If he did it for me, I know he can do it for you.

Be Encouraged.

If you love someone tell them

I love you

Destaynee