More Than A 2012 Conqueror

The New Year is coming once again. So it’s either today or tomorrow when people complain about how awful or horrible the past year has been. Interesting enough they’ve made it through, no matter how “bad” it was. I think people and mainly Christians need to learn to appreciate the process. If we look back in Genesis, it took God seven days to create the heavens and the earth. To us seven days is short, but it was a process.  I’ll say this past year 2012, had many different processes I had to go through. At the time I couldn’t appreciate them, in the moment I didn’t understand but I have an appreciation for them. No matter how bad 2012 was to you, you had to go through it to get to 2013. Whether or not you learned what you needed to learn or got what God needed you to get is on you, but you had to go through it. In 2012 I’ve experienced many different things. Things I never would've imagined to ever happen to me. I’ll take you through a brief tour of my 2012.

At the top on the year I was in love with someone who would never love me the same way. I was insecure. I was trying to prove or convince that person that I was worthy. I wanted to be loved SO bad… I went on a few dates with some CRAZY men lol (February was my LAST date ever) I was still unemployed, I was in the club, I almost got snatched by some crazy man downtown, I was suicidal, I felt worthless, I felt like a burden to my family. I don’t know when exactly but sometime in the spring. I went on a fast. I put my focus on my past, how God brought me through before, how he kept me before how he saved me before. I’ve been in church long enough to know that he’s the same God today, yesterday, and forever more. I know that he’s a God that can’t fail I know that he’s a God that can’t lie, that would never leave me no forsake me. So I was on a mission. A mission to find out just how much God loved me. I stayed in my bible searching for how much he cares for me. See it’s not enough for me to believe what you say God said, I want to see it for myself. So I searched and when God says seek and you will find. You surely will find and I found out just how valuable I am to God, Just how much he loves me, just how much he cares, just how much he needs me to fulfill his will, his kingdom business. Once I did that and started trusting God to be who he said he is and put ALL my faith in him is when things started turning around. At this time my prayer was that Kirk Franklin Mali music song “Give me that”. I sung that song every day all day it was my prayer. Things turned around for me. I’ve realized how can God trust us to be faithful when everything is going right, when we aren’t faithful to him when things are bad. How can he trust us with the desires of our hearts if we aren’t faithful to him during the process? So by now I got a job, soon after got a car and my son in school. Everything I needed God provided faster than I could stop praying. Once I STOPPED making it about me and made it ALL about him he moved the mountains. Once I stopped saying I trusted him and actually put those words into action he did everything he said he would do. Now don’t get me wrong I was still being tested. I deleted every “random” person in my phone every negative person anything that had no purpose I got rid of it. Little did I know I was still holding on to the biggest “random”. A “church” friend. I didn’t see this as a friendship without a purpose because we go to the same church talk about God etc. Yea Demons go to church too.  Remember when I said in my previously blog, when we hold on to people or things longer than the season called for, is when chaos and mess start to happen. Yea this situation made me realize that. Long story short, a crime was committed against me. I’m not going to go into details about what happen and certainly will never call a name but in a later blog I will share my experience. That experience also showed me sometimes you have to go through misery for your ministry. Sounds harsh, but how can you minister about things you’ve never been through or dealt with? You can’t really preach about something you don’t know. You can preach about God if you don’t know him. Same concept.  In the mist of all this I was running from my purpose. I know what God laid on my heart, but I didn’t think I was “qualified” to do it. Yep that mean old devil tried to make me think I couldn’t do what God called me to do. Welp obviously I let those thoughts go lol Well actually God just made it happen. Out of nowhere I would get messages in my inbox from young girls seeking help or advice etc. Yea When The Holy Ghost wants to move he will move whether you want him to or not. His will have to be done, so don’t fight The Holy Ghost. Trust me you will lose lol. So yea I’m not longer afraid of what God needs me to do for his kingdom. I’m actually excited. I met with the youth director at my church and I’m ready. Where ever God needs me to go I’m willing to go. No matter what the process looks like. The safest place to be is in the will of God.  So what this blog post was all about was to let you see the things you went through in 2012 HAD to happen. How else are you going to mature if you don’t go through something’s? I mean it’s not always easy, because you have to die to your flesh DAILY!! You have to die to your will and take on God’s will DAILY!!.Nobody never promised me the road would be easy, but I was promised a God that would never leave me and never forsake me and that’s ALL I need. My spiritual growth and awareness is through the roof. My trust in God is crazy. I asked God to make my faith like that of a child and I believe he will get me through whatever 2013 has to offer. Honestly I’m excited for 2013 it’s nothing but up from here. I was raised in the church but my relationship with Christ has NEVER been this strong, so yes I’m grateful for my 2012 process. That stuff had to happen to get me here today. I’m more than a 2012 Conqueror

If you love someone tell them

I love you

Destaynee

http://youtu.be/0IEtds2YW_A -Kadesh by Mali Music

Rejection? or Protection?

Have you ever liked someone SO much and everything about them SEEMED perfect? You felt like yall would be a great couple? Or have you ever had a crush on someone that didn't like you the same way you liked them? I’m sure we've all been in one of those situations once, twice, maybe even more than that. I know I have been. I've liked a guy and everything they showed me seemed so great. In my mind I’m like there’s no way things wouldn't work.  Now that I’m a little more mature not only in Christ, but intellectually, and from experience I know that what seems good isn't good. Take sin for example, the media, the artist glamorize sin. It looks like it’s so cool. They dress it up to make it seem like its so amazing and you’re missing out on greatness if you don’t participate.  Some people see the red flags with that lifestyle (living in sin) but still decide to participate. When dating/courting we see the red flags yet we still decide to participate. I believe God is speaking to us all the time. We chose not to listen. Often times in relationships or a situation were so and so likes so and so we don’t listen to what God is telling us. We figure we’re reading too deep into the situation, or we think we can change the situation. Never the less the flags are there and they’re red. So in my head I see it like God is throwing things at us so we can stay away from a person, to warn us, or protect us. We keep going until finally that person flat out rejects us. We see it as rejection, but it was simply God protecting us. We can’t see what tomorrow holds, we can’t see what a few days from now holds, we barely know what’s going on in the present. God was protecting us, shielding us from what could have been the worst possible situation we could have faced. When I was immature or ignorant to this way of thinking, I often came down on myself. I would say “geesh guess I’m not good enough” “guess I’m not pretty enough” “guess I’m not smart enough”… That is the WRONG mindset to have! While your beating yourself up on what “you’re not” the devil is somewhere in a corner pointing and laughing, high fiveing himself. He wants us to think low of ourselves, he wants us to think God isn't good enough or what he created us to be isn't good enough. So stop those thoughts time they even began to creep in your head. - - The only way to kill a weed is to pull if from its root.- - Take yourself out of whatever situation is making you feel down on yourself. Be it the music you listen to, the shows you watch, the people you hang around, whatever it is. – Proverbs 4:23 Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.- - We have to guard our hearts at all times. Don’t make excuses “oh it’s just a movie” yea that movie will have you in your feelings believing the lies of the devil. Trust me I know lol No one is perfect. If you’r real with yourself and real with God you already know what you can handle and what you cant. You should be able to see things coming a mile away and when they do come you can say “That wasn't rejection that was God’s protection! Thank you Jesus!” and you’ll be sincere because you would know - - Jeremiah 29:11 says For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.- - It ALL goes back to knowing your worth in Christ. God sent his ONLY son to DIE for you. That’s a big investment. Talk about public display of affection God put it all out there! You HAVE to know how valuable you are in Christ. I think it’s important that we remind ourselves of that daily! Once you get it down pat you won’t say “oh I was rejected” ..” Oh I wasn’t wanted” NO!! You were protected by your daddy! He has your back! Rejection is just a form of protection, embrace that love from God!

If you love someone tell them

I love you

Destaynee

Are you ready for war?

So I made the mistake of coming on Facebook, and ALL I see are status' about people being afraid to take their children to school.... Really? Where is your faith? Saying you’re scared to take your kid to school is saying a lot. Your saying 1.) you don't trust God 2.) you’re afraid of the devil.

The world has made too many excuses for the devils work," oh he was suffering from depression, OCD, Aspergers disease." You need to call it what it is. That was the devil! That was demonic, so Christians what are we living in fear because the devil showed his face? Because he made a major move in the spiritual war?? This is NOT the time for us to be afraid; this is the time to fight back!! This is when we put on the FULL armor of God, this is when we let prayer and faith be our weapon, this is not the time to hide! Sit back and be scared NO! God needs soldiers that are ready to fight the good fight, because if you think this is over your sadly mistaken.

Now I know a lot of you aren’t going to agree. Which is fine, what I’m not going to do is argue. Yes it’s absolutely horrible that those children were killed yes it is. I have a young child and a lot of young cousins; I could NEVER imagine what that could be like. Rev. Jesse Jackson told us there’s power in the blood of the innocent. I believe that. Look how they did our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. He was an innocent man and they nailed him to the cross, but it was all a part of God’s plan. Jesus died and that was awful and cruel, but aren’t you glad? Not only did he rise up 3 days later, the blood he shed saved us!! Jesus was born to a virgin just so he could teach his people, heal his people, then die and raise 3 days later for our sins. That was ALL a part of God’s plan. Jesus HAD to die, just to save us. Do you not see how powerful that is? All that had to happen because it was God’s plan. What if Mary wasn’t a virgin? We would be questioning whether or not that was Josephs baby right? RIGHT! So why is this any different? Well because we already have a savior we already have the blood of Jesus covering us, but why is it so hard for us to go along with God’s plan when things aren’t happy, sunshine and rainbows? Why do we become fearful when something awful happens? We say we trust God, so why are you afraid? God didn’t give us the spirit of fear, 2Timothy 1:7 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear ;but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.- So cast down that fear right now because that is not of God! –Psalm16:8 says I have set The Lord always before me: because he is at my right hand, I shall not be moved.- To me that says no matter what it looks like, no matter what I think it is, The Lord is before me, meaning his will before mine, meaning whatever he wants to happen comes before whatever I THINK should happen. Why? Because he is at my right hand and I will not be moved. I will not be moved when the enemy comes in like a flood. I will not be moved!!

Nothing happens on this earth without God’s permission. The devil had to go to God and get permission to do this. It seems horrific but you have see the love in this. Those children are innocent, they are in heaven okay, they are better off than we are okay. Imagine if God allowed the devil to go to a high school, or a college campus or a business. Those people may not have been able to make it into heaven. Some of those people would’ve gone to hell. Please don’t miss the beauty in that. God is giving us a chance to get right!!! God is giving us a chance to spread his gospel; God is giving us a chance to trust him! That boy could’ve EASILY shot up a bunch of lost souls that were already on their way to hell! He’s showing us that yes the devil is busy but we need to be 10X’s busier! We need to be spreading the TRUE Gospel, not this sugarcoated, watered down fake stuff. We need to put away our children’s bibles and pull out our adult bibles. Stop sitting in on children’s church and go to the main sanctuary! The word of God isn’t for us to be comfortable. It isn’t to make our flesh feel comfortable; it isn’t to make our emotions comfortable. When we we’re little we used to think the devil was this red monster with horns that jumps out to scare us. We had no idea that he was out here trying to get souls, we just thought he was trying to scare us. I bet that made you uncomfortable didn’t it? Imagine if you were still as grown as you are thinking the devil just wanted to jump out and scare you? You’d be so mistaken. The devil is real and he’s trying to gain souls. Now if you’re saved he can’t touch your soul. He can mess with you if God allows, but he can’t touch your soul.

What happened in Connecticut was horrible, but we can’t change what happen to those children. They are already with our heavenly father, but what we can do is get ready for Jesus. What we can do is introduce people to Jesus, what we can do is put on the FULL armor of God. Ephesians 6:10-18 –Finally my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. Put on the whole armour of God that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore having you loins girt about with truth and having on the breastplate of righteousness; and your feet shod with the preparation of gospel peace; above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the spirit which is the word of God: praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints.-

Put on the whole armour of God

If you love someone tell them 

I love you

 Destaynee

It's not about us!

Why me? Why do I have to deal with this? Why do you think I can handle this God?

I know we aren’t to question God, but let’s be honest we have asked God these questions are more at one time or another during our walk with him. The situation or the trial we are facing seems like it’s so big. We’re doing EVERYTHING God is asking us to do yet we still find ourselves in situations we think we can’t handle why? What happened to not putting more on us that we can bear? What happened to the reward in our obedience? Where is that? Let me answer a few of those questions.

 First of all God doesn't lie, he can’t lie, he can’t be tempted with evil, so EVERYTHING he said in his word is true. Every promise he made to his people is true and will come true. God won’t put more on us than we can bear. - - 1 Corinthians 10:13 “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted about that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it”- - The problem is we don’t understand the power that we have within us to overcome the situations we face. We don’t exercise our faith and trust in God when problems arise as much as we do in day to day life.

Today after a long week of work, let alone a long day time I got in my car I began to cry. I allowed myself to get so frustrated with my environment at work, and even though God just revealed to me my purpose for being there today I felt as though I wanted to give up. I was driving and just crying because I didn’t even have to words to say to God, he kept saying it’s not about you. After a while a peace came over me and I began singing and praise God. Now I say this all the time, there is nothing wrong with crying, crying doesn’t mean you’re weak. I know for me my tears are everything I can’t say or don’t know how to say, but I’m grateful I serve and omniscient God. He already knows what’s wrong and what I want to say. So after I put aside my flesh, I just asked God to encourage me and strengthen me where I’ve become weak.  I know that the things I’m facing aren't just for me, I know ultimately this is all for God’s kingdom and I have to tell myself that every day.

I don’t have a casual commitment with Christ. I have a full time every day all day commitment with Christ. Therefore I have to live for him, I have to obey him, I have to go “ALL IN” for Christ. I can’t repay him with gold and silver for what he did for me back on Calvary. I don’t have land or cattle to repay him with. All I have is my life. He gave his life for me, so I give mine right back to him, in every way. I have to represent him properly. I can’t be screaming Jesus is amazing, but secretly depressed because I don’t trust him. I can’t be screaming Jesus is faithfully, but dating random’s because I don’t believe he will fulfill my hearts desires and send my husband. I can’t be screaming Jesus is my everything when I put other people, things,TV , work, school before him. I can’t be screaming Jesus is Jehovah Jireh and playing the lotto every week. I can’t scream Jesus is always with me, If I’m always complaining that he’s not in my presence. That is a misrepresentation of Christ. Same thing when we are walking the path God called us to walk, we can’t let opposition cause us to stop or give up what he has called us to do. IT’S NOT ABOUT US! We have to move when God tells us to. Our obedience shows are commitment to Christ! We have to be all or nothing when it comes to this. 

At bible study we studied Acts 5:1-33. Peter and the Apostles were jailed because they were doing what God told them to do. God sent an angel to get them out of jail and told them to go back to the very place they were arrested for preaching. They were obedient and trusted God. They went. All the people heard about them and men were added unto God. Imagine if we went the places God called us to go. Imagine if we did the works God called us to do. Imagine if we put aside our flesh and our idol gods and put God first. Imagine the souls he’d have. Imagine the lives that would be saved. How amazing would that be? I’m so glad Peter didn’t make it all about him and gave up when he was jailed. I’m so glad he didn’t give up when they were threatened with death. What we have to remember is that God isn’t going to send us somewhere HE wants us to go and not provide us with what we need. God isn’t going to send us to the store with $30 expecting us to buy an item worth $50. When God sends us somewhere he is going to send his power, all we have to do is trust him and obey him. We have all the power we need when we obey God, so don’t let the little old devil try to make you feel less than or powerless. If you are saved, a child of God, you have the power of the Holy Ghost. Jesus sent the Holy Spirit down, so if you believe you have that!

When you find yourself “making it about you” remind yourself that God will NEVER put more on you than you can bear, you have the power you just have to stop making it about you, trust, believe and obey Christ.

Stay encouraged

If you love someone tell them

I love you

Destaynee

Is your light shining?

“This little light of mine, I’m gonna let it shine”

That isn’t just a cute little song the kids sing at church that should be a song we keep with us when we go through our day to day life. As Christians the world is looking at our lifestyle. They are looking to see if what we are saying is lining up with how we’re living. They are looking to see if how we’re living is lining up with what the bible says. I've learned over the past few months you NEVER know who is watching you. You may not think that you’re a big impact or a “big deal” but people are certainly watching.

I posted a video today on YouTube. My YouTube video “what is your purpose in the lives of the people around you”. I spoke on how I asked God to show me my purpose in the lives of the people in my life because I know that once the season is over and I’m holding onto something God is telling me is over. I’m outside the will of God, and when we step outside the will of God things tend to get messy. So long story short someone told me they were an atheist; right away it made sense as to my purpose in this person’s life. I was so concerned and felt horrible for that person because I don’t want anybody to go to hell, but I realized all I can do is pray for them and let my light shine. People aren’t looking to have the bible read to them; people aren’t looking for you to lay hands on them they want to see. “Do you not know the tree by the fruit?” We are to be the salt; we are to preserve the word of God.

Matthew 5:16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.

Acts 26:18 To open their eyes, so that they may turn from darkness to light and from the power of Satan to God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins and a place among those who are sanctified by faith in me.’

How do you think a nonbeliever is going to be interested in our God if we are living like them? Not just partying like them, dating like them, but thinking like them. Even showing a lack of faith in our God, showing a lack of trust, and being disobedient. How are you gonna win souls if you can’t endure, if you can’t trust God to go where he’s telling you to go?

I talk about the power God has placed in us often, because it’s true. Our bodies are holy temples because The Holy spirit dwells within us. Therefore we have the power within us. This means there’s a presence that comes with us when we come. Have you ever walked into a room and the people in the room where sinning; cursing, drinking etc, and time you walked in they stopped? Or have you been around a person that you know curses ALL the time, but when they talk to you they don’t use those words? You think they stop because your so cute ? No it’s the presence that comes with you. Just how the bible says we battle not against flesh and blood but against powers.. this is a spiritual warfare. The spirits know you’re a child of God they know certain things can’t go down when you’re around and that’s usually because your light has been shining. Now if you’re in a club no the people aren’t gonna stop what they’re doing lol I’m talking mainly about people you know or come in contact often and even then that doesn’t always work. When I was younger my cousin’s would try to get me to drink, but I always told them “No I don’t drink”. They don’t ask me anymore because I’ve upheld my integrity.(It’s a relationship the holy spirit doesn’t allow ME to drink, I don’t have that desire. Not to say anything about those that do drink) Things should change when you show up because the spirits know and the people should know that you are a child of God.

1 Peter 2:9 But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.

As Christians we have to stand up for God. I think we have gotten so used to seeing sin being accepted that we are immune to it. We are no longer bothered by people who curse. We are no long bothered by people who get drunk. We are no longer bothered by purposely making the decision to sin. We see it so much on tv and in the songs we aren’t phased. This is why we NEED to guard our heart. We are letting these little seeds be planted that sinning is okay, or doing a little of that is okay. You can’t almost be pregnant and you can’t almost be Christian. You’re all in or you aren’t in at all! YES it’s THAT dramatic! Day and night are dramatic and polar opposites same as walking in light or walking in dark. You can’t walk in the dark or be okay with ANYTHING dark and claim to be light. It’s not possible figuratively it’s not possible literally. We have to stand up for Christ and let our light shine. We should never be okay with darkness, and darkness should flee when we come around because light over powers darkness always!

God corrects those he loves. We too have to correct the ones we love (and that should be everyone because God is love, he love’s everyone). I’m not saying going around telling people they’re going to hell because they do this or that lol. No. I would say ask God to show you have to reach people, but I guarantee you one of the ways he will tell you is your lifestyle. People should know you’re a Christian by your lifestyle. They should know by the way you treat others, by the way you speak. They should just know! You don’t have to know ALL the scriptures to be seen as a Christian either, because the devil knows the bible also. You have to live it! Live out what God is telling you, keep the commandments remain obedient and let your light shine, at ALL times!

John 8:12 Again Jesus spoke to them, saying, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.”

Also apart of letting your light shine is standing up against evil. So many people wonder why evil things just keep happening, it's because people aren't standing up. The people that should be standing up are The Christians! 

Psalm 94:16 says" Who will rise up for me against the evildoers? Who will stand up for me against the workers of iniquity?"

We aren't to just sit back and watch evil happen, sitting back and doing nothing is like condoning it. Something has to be done.

God has chosen to do good works through his children, it's up to us to make good things happened, which means our light has to shine. We have to stand up and stand out against evil. Our lights can't shine if we are condoning adultery by watching shows promoting it, or homosexuality. In church we say it's a sin, but when we are at home "it's just tv" No you've JUST been tricked by the enemy! Your light has just been dimmed because you choose to condone a behavior instead of standing up against it. 

Understand letting your light shine is more than just doing good works, it's actually standing for other good works. It's standing up against evil and letting satan and the world know you don't support it, you don't agree with it.

So is your light shining?

If you love someone tell them

I love you

Goodnight

Lifetime Girlfriend Program

Have you signed up for the lifetime girlfriend program? Maybe you have and you just don't know it.

My dad had a phrase he would say to me and my siblings "you need to get off the lifetime kid program" ..."don't be on the lifetime kid program" ... He would say this if he found us being spoiled, or not working hard enough for the things we wanted and relied on him and my mom.It's not a program you want to be on lol. So I'm taking it and making my own phrase "Don't you be on that lifetime girlfriend program!!!"

 My definition is slightly different. MOST women don't know they're signed up for the lifetime girlfriend program. They are so used to doing things a certain way and they are yet to change receiving the same exact results. MOST of the time women are subscribed to this program subconsciously, we don't even realize it.

I was watching a show last night "Catfish" on MTV and the girl said "all she dreams is to be is (insert guys name) girlfriend"...Not only is that sad but, I think people need to remember to be careful of the things they say. -- Proverbs 18:21  Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits--

You have the power to speak things into existence. Now you keep saying that's all you aspire to be is so and so's girlfriend that's all your gonna be. Christian women, we should not aspire to JUST be someone's girlfriend. We are called for SO much more! Marriage is a ministry! BOYFRIENDS DO NOT GET HUSBAND BENEFITS!!

I think the world, the media, the movies; the music has painted such an "attractive" picture of dating that Christians today forget the values and morals we are to uphold when dating.

I will be honest; I NEVER courted the way God intended. When I dated it was based on what me and my current boyfriend wanted, God was NOT in those relationships at all!(hence why they failed, hence why I'm single!!) -- I know you’re like so why should i listen to you then you haven't courted God's way-- Well you don't have to listen to me lol but I've been through enough relationships to know right from wrong, plus now I'm being led by the holy ghost that's why I've been single for as long as I have been. I'm choosing to do things God's way. I have allowed myself time to rest, and in that resting period God has shown me my worth, he has shown me my value in him, he has healed my heart time and time again. My heart is made whole, and it's only because of God. You can't expect your heart to heal if you’re running in and out of relationships. You need to rest and let God work on you

Philippians 2:13 for it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure.

The world tells us the only way to get a man is to chase him, show off our bodies, let him "test" our equipment, let him live with us etc.

I'll tell you now, the world’s way of dating are going to keep you subscribed to the lifetime girlfriend program. You will not get a godly man doing things like the world.  Those behaviors will KEEP you on the lifetime girlfriend program, and being on the lifetime girlfriend program is not to say you will be with the SAME guy (sorry to burst your bubble). That guy is going to see how easy it is to get what he wants time and time again, after a while he's going to get tired of it... you know that saying "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free".. SOME men think like that, granted those aren't the men you should be dealing with, but if you’re on the lifetime girlfriend program you probably don't care.

I believe the way God presented Eve to Adam is the way he will do it for us, if we do things his way. I've heard and seen so many success stories on couples doing things God's way and are with who God created for them. (Heather and Cornelius Lindsey for example)

I know it's not easy because we live in a world where we get answers and results at a drop of a dime, but that's not what being a Christian is all about. We are now currently waiting for our Savior to come back. We have NO idea when he's going to come back, but we aren't rushing him. So why are we rushing him when it comes to relationships? Because everyone is in them? Because we don't want to "be alone" Why do we do this? I think it all comes back to trust. We have to trust that when God said he was going to give us the desires of our heart he will. We have to stop focusing on the desire and focus on God.

I desire to be a wife a helpmate, but only to the man God created for me. I know that it’s not about me.  Just because a man is fine to me doesn't mean a thing if he doesn't live for God! It's not about us people it's ALL about the building of the Kingdom. Put aside your selfishness and let God move when HE wants to move.

2 Corinthians 5:17

 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold all things are become new.

Put aside these lifetime girlfriend tendencies, let’s stop feeding and glorifying our flesh and glorify God and his will.

This walk is all about sacrifice and obedience right? I think we're going to have to sacrifice certain things in order to guard our hearts. For me personally I just cannot listen to secular music (unless it's like old school) ....I think I touched on the reasons in my post about music... I know I just can't sit around listening to love songs and stuff. It's not to say I'm weak, I just know me and I know that I have no business listening to it. After a while I just lost my desires to continue in the things before I got serious about this. I also don't watch certain tv shows or certain movies. It's imperative that we guard our hearts people. You’re not weak for doing so. You’re very strong for recognizing area's that you may stumble in or have a hard time in and to stay away from it.

It takes a strong person to put aside their will and take on God's will. Don't let anyone tell you anything other than that.

So ladies let's strive to be worked on by God, let's allow him to work on us and let's allow him to tell us when we should move and get into a relationship.

Pay attention to the red flags also ladies. We should have standards, and they should be based on biblical stand points.. 6'3 185 lbs brown skin.. NO that's not a standard.. lol get real standards okay?! And while you’re busy making that list make sure you can pass your own check list. I think it's important that we are right with God ourselves before we go thinking we're ready for a man. We both should be in a good healthy consistent relationship with Christ that is bearing fruit!!! (It’s too easy to play a Christian these days; I need to see some fruit hunny)

 -Also watch out for those men that say God told them you’re his wife... God is not the author for confusion; I believe God will tell both of yall.

Notice Adam recognized Eve as his wife, and she recognized him as her husband too...

We can do this God's way ladies!! Keep your trust and faith in him at all times!!

If you love someone tell them

I Love you

Destaynee