Today I was quickly reminded that when God closes a door, we
need to leave it closed. I often talk about relationships needing to have
purpose, but ultimately friendships are a form of relationship and they too
need to have a purpose. Just like with romantic relationships, once that season
is over it’s over. When we do things that are not in the right season, they are
outside of God’s will, which will cause mess and chaos. God is not going to
bless mess; he is not the author of it. (Although when we do step out of God’s
will his grace is still sufficient (2
Corinthians 12:9 and he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for you: for my
strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather boast
in my weaknesses, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.), but I wouldn’t
recommend purposely stepping outside his will to test his grace. God is not to
be tested)
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| -This is me and my bestfriend Samantha we were like 15 or 16 (about 7/8 years ago) in this picture, back when I was in Virginia, and when I first went Natural- Disclaimer this blog has NOTHING to do with her or anyone in particular , I love her :) just wanted to use this picture . |
Have you ever had a friendship with someone that was so
unlike any other friendship you’ve ever had, (an unspeakable bond) but
something happened and caused a major rift between the two of you? I’m sure we’ve
all had friendships that are no longer there or the way we would like them to
be because of something. Have you ever thought maybe that friendship had to end
because that season in your life is over? Or maybe you were giving more
attention to that friendship than you were giving to your relationship with
God? Dueteronomy 6:15 shows us how jealous God is of us. (For the LORD thy God is a jealous God among you) lest the anger of the
LORD thy God be kindled against thee, and destroy thee from off the face of the
earth.) Now I don’t know about you, but I’m too afraid of God to have ANY
relationship come before him to the point where he is jealous.
It’s very important that while in or before we enter into
friendships or relationships we ask God what the purpose for it is. Everything
we do has a purpose, and since this life is about God, worshipping him and the
building of his kingdom we had to fulfill those purposes. I don’t ever want to
be in someone’s life and don’t know the purpose. We have to know these things,
because someone might be an assignment, not a friend that you hold onto for
life. Holding on to people outside their season, can either hinder you or
hinder them in their growth with God. Nobody wants to get in the way of a
person’s personal growth with God, at least not me. Be careful that these “friends”
that are in your life, aren’t leaning on you as a crutch.
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| -Me and Dria a few weeks ago- |
A wise man of God told me I had to “know the difference
between ministry and friendship.” Everyone you minister too is NOT supposed to
nor are they going to be your friend. (And vice versa) We can’t let our
feelings or emotions get in the way of what the main objective is. I know
personally, on this journey, living a life after God’s heart, can be lonely. So
when we come across believers that even WANT to talk about God, we tend to hold
onto them. Just like every Christian man/woman is not your spouse… every
Christian you come across isn’t going to be in your life as a friend and that
is fine. We have to be okay with going it alone sometimes. Now I’m not saying
purposely make yourself a loner, I’m not saying don’t be friendly. I’m not
saying NONE of that.(let’s keep it in context) We have to real with ourselves
and other people, everyone that comes into your life is NOT supposed to stay in
your life. If a person is not growing with you, they can’t GO with you. If a
person is not moving toward Christ, they need to go on with their life. Just as
we have to guard our heart from sin, we have to guard our heart from unhealthy
friendships, or holding on to people that are out of season.
I believe Luke 11:9(And
I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock,
and it shall be opened unto you.) If we make our requests known to God I believe
he will give them according to his will. Ask God for godly friends, but be
prepared for when he reveals to you those that aren’t what you’re asking for. Often
times we ask God for things, but we don’t let go of the old and wonder why
there’s a problem. If only we could get out of the way and, stop hindering
ourselves.
God is in control, we have to trust him enough to believe he
knows what he is doing, and allow him to do it. Stop being a hindrance to your
own well-being. Moving forward into a new season, means letting go of those
from the old season. Close the door and don't look back.
Looking back will cost you, just ask Lot’s wife
At the end of the day, if Jesus is the only friend you have, then that's all the friends you need. Jesus really is everything we need and so much more. Don't get caught up on friendships with human, that you neglect the most important one. The one with Jesus Christ.
At the end of the day, if Jesus is the only friend you have, then that's all the friends you need. Jesus really is everything we need and so much more. Don't get caught up on friendships with human, that you neglect the most important one. The one with Jesus Christ.
If you love someone tell them
I love you
Goodnight
-Check out This song by my homie Troy Jenkins, "Friend" Love this guy love this song.-
Destaynee
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