I think there is an unfair judgment that comes with being a
single mother. People expect you to be able to do the job that was meant for
two without a problem. They love to say “you chose that dead beat when you had
sex with him” or “should’ve thought about that before you got pregnant”.
Now I think I can speak for some (not all) single mothers
and say we do what he have to do, it is NOT always easy, but we do what we can!
As a Single Christian Mother, I’m doing as the bible says in
Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he
will not depart from it” I treat that scripture as gold because children grow
up. All I can do is introduce my child to God, get him in church, teach him how
to pray how to love God, but at the end of the day (or when he’s older) it will
be up to him to either stay on the path or stray away as some kids do, but the
bible says he will NOT depart from it. My hope is him not departing from it,
but that’s when the pressure kicks in. You look at the youth today and you can
see, a lot of the young kids in trouble come from a broken home; the father not
being in the child’s life. I’m sorry but once every other week, is not actively
being in anyone’s life, let alone a growing child’s. The thing is we can’t
control anyone. We can’t control how active or inactive a father is in their
child’s life. We can’t control the quality that’s being brought when time is
being spent with that child. (Sometimes it’s worse, than helpful) All we can do
is hope that, the father see’s the importance of a positive role model in their
child’s life.( but that’s NOT guaranteed)
Today I went up for prayer on this very subject, being a
single parent and wanting to train up my child the way he should God. Helping
him to become the very man God wants him to be. My pastor quoted Psalm 68:5 “A
father of the fatherless, and a judge of the widows, is God in his holy
habitation.” No matter what I do, God will ALWAYS be a father to the
fatherless, whether the earthly father is alive, or not, involved or not. God
is our father in heaven and that’s the same for the youngest of the children to
the oldest of the adults. God is our father.
Past few weeks, my son has been asking for 2 baby sisters
and 1 baby brother lol. I know this is coming from a book his teacher has been
reading in class. (I think it’s quite cute) MY child is pretty persistent as
much children are at his age. He’s reminded me ALMOST daily of his request of sibling’s
lol. I tell him “Daniel when mommy is married, I will give you a sister or a
brother”… but that just opens questions “when are you gonna get married, who
are you gonna marry” (true story I was being GRILLED by my 3 year old lol) I
told him just like I tell everyone else. Whenever God is ready for me to be
married, and as for as who, that’s whomever God has for me. (of course that
wasn’t enough for him he tried guessing
(-__-)
Psalm 68:6 was also mentioned in that prayer “God setteth
the solitary in families: he bringeth out those which are bound with chains:
but the rebellious dwell in a dry land.” God will bring Daniel and I the family
he has for us. He will bring us the father figure, the role model, and the
husband I need to help raise my son.
Single mothers(and dads) we have to remain encouraged when
it comes to our children. We have to remind ourselves of God’s word, we have to
remain in prayer when it comes to raising these kids. I always tell God thank
you for trusting me enough to send me one of your children to look after. Yes
these are our babies, but they were God’s babies first. He trusts us with his babies;
we have to make him proud. Train them up biblically, keep them in church, cover
them in prayer love them and teach them to be great men and women of God. We
can’t get discouraged, but we can keep calm and take all of our burdens,
worries and cares to God. We have to STAY prayed up, we have to take issues
concerning our children to God and allow him to work it out for us, because he
will. He knows what’s behind the corner before we even know we are going to
walk past one. We have to trust him and believe him to be everything he says he
will be, everything he has already shown himself to be.
Keep calm and trust God
If you love someone tell them
I love you
Destaynee
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