STIMULUS CHECKS

BIG STIMULATO

It's been about a year since we've been living in a Panoramic. We've been quarantine, we've been wearing masks we can barely breathe in, sanitizing etc. People have lost their lives, people have recovered, and some have dodged it all together. (some of us believe we had it, in Dec 2019) Regardless of how you feel about it, the government has decided to send out relief funds. (Shout out to Money Bags Joe!!) Some would argue it's not enough, some would say, be happy we're getting something. I'm not here to argue either point.

However, I'm in a couple "mom groups" on facebook and a few questions have been raised.

What are you doing with your stimmy?

How much are you giving your baby daddy?

What are you buying your kids?

Those are the main questions I've been seeing, and every time I see them I roll my eyes!

First of all can we normalize, not discussing what we're doing with our money? It's absolutely nobodies business what you do with your money.. Good or bad,  Stimmy with kids or without kids. Period, it's yours.

Some of the mom's in the group argued that moms should give some of their stimulus check to the father of their kids..... The reason was because it's not just your kid(s).... again, mind ya damn business! Everyone's relationship or lack thereof with the father of their kids, is different and Nobodies business! They also mentioned, well if he pays child support he should get a cut.... chile... is he going to use the money for the child, just as you're expecting the mother to? If he's not the custodial parent, he's probably not...

Another argument is that the money should solely be spent on the kids. period. You're getting extra because of the kids, it should be theres... is what some moms are saying. The other end of that argument is Christmas just passed, if the kids are taken care of, they have no needs other than saving for future, and birthdays etc.

My issue with the many posts I saw, were people tried to make other moms feel bad about whatever they shared they would do. Its nobodies business, but I think people forget that we've been in the panini for a year now. Some people's incomes were greatly effected. Living situations may have changed, bills didn't stop even when the world did so many factors go into play.

My thing is, I don't share with the world, or anybody when I'm getting additional money. It's just not anyone's business, and I'm damn sure not going to discuss with a bunch of people my plans for it, especially when I know and see how judgmental they are.

I know everyone reading may not be a mom, or have kids but regardless, your money is your money. Your life is your life, you decide what you want to do with it. Don't allow anyone to guilt you, or make you feel bad for what you want to do with your money. Also, I think it's important that people "normalize" treating themselves. Do something special or nice for yourself. Again, we've been living in very strange times,. Times none of us have truly experienced before, and we are owed some grace. We aren't going to always get that from other people, so give it to yourself!

All in all.. do what you feel is best. Frankly I'm tried of these arguments, and will continue to scroll on past them. 

Live and let live!

If you love someone tell them,

I love you.

Des