Bullies; How many of us are one?

If there’s anything I can’t stand, it’s a bully.  Bullies are living and acting in denial and are unable to see/admit to the issues they have going on. So they find, what they think are flaws in other people and maximize on them. Most bullies have problems with their self-esteem. Either they were bullied before, or they have issues from other areas in their life.

Back in the days, and by back in the days I mean the middle school days of my generation lol. The bullies would call you names after class or in the halls and maybe some bandwagon bullies would join in, but that was it.

Actually I’ll share my experience with bullying. In the 7^th grade I attended Lake Braddock Secondary School in Burke Va. I was the “new girl” (the life story of every military brat). For most 7^th graders that’s an awkward stage (especially when your middle school is fused with a high school.) you’re trying to fit in, but stay true to what your parents taught you, you’re growing and going through puberty it’s just awkward. For me it was even more awkward because I had eczema. At this time my eczema was at its worst, so I got teased for that. I was affected by bullying, as most people are in some way. I had low self-esteem issues that stuck with me for years, I was depressed and even wanted to commit suicide. This is also when I started writing, and got into music heavily. It also caused me want to stand up for those that were bullied.

 These days bullying has gone so much further than just calling someone names in the hallways. These days technology will have people across America taking part in the bullying. Everyone likes a good laugh, but why does it always have to be at someone else’s expense?

We have all seen the meme’s of different people, and different slogans or phrases on them, but the thing that really burnt my toast, was this “JadaPose” and ‘Twitterpurge” that were trending topics on Twitter recently. I’ll give a little background  based on my knowledge of the two.

The Jada Pose came about because a young black girl was drugged and raped by multiple men, and those men took a picture of her naked body and it went viral on the internet. People not knowing fully about the situation called her every name under the book. People were blaming her for what happen etc, even though you can clearly see in the picture that she is unconscious. This Twitter Purge, people on twitter were posting explicit (naked) pictures of people that sent them to them. Turns out some young women committed suicide because of this “Twitter purge”.

This tells me a few things about the thought process of this generation (Well of people in general actually). Obviously no one cares about rape, because “it’s the victims fault” and no one cares about how anyone else feels, as long as the joke isn’t about them. Selfish! The bible says “Men will become lovers of themselves” Selfishness is the epitome of being a lover of one’s self.

You might be saying “Well Destaynee that isn’t necessarily bullying” Yes it is according to the dictionary the synonyms of Bullying are persecute, oppress, tyrannize, browbeat, harass, torment, intimidate, strong-arm, dominate.  Jada experienced that as well as the victims of “The twitter purge” I know you’re saying “Well they shouldn’t be taking naked pictures and sending them to other people anyway”. I completely agree! Your body is yours and it isn’t to be shared with others, especially not through text or social media. However, I’m not here to judge anyone who has done that, but I am here to stand up for those that were persecuted, oppressed, harassed and tormented to the point they felt their life wasn’t worth living anymore. I’m here to stand up for the girl in the meme with the cheerleading uniform, and Terio and the countless others. (I don’t care what y’all say, Terio is being exploited and his obesity is child abuse)

Do I chuckle a bit when I see certain pictures? Yes, we all have a sense of humor, but I’m not going to pass them on. I’m not going to write them on social media and embarrass them more. At the end of every day everyone has feelings and emotions. The problem with social media is we tend to forget that behind these avi’s, usernames and bio’s is a person. You never know how strong or fragile a person may be. You never know where their frame of mind is that day. You never know how close to the edge a person might be, and your words might be the words that send them over the edge. The bible says in Hebrews 10:24 “And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works”

As Christians the only REAL proof of our relationship with Christ is in our actions. Let’s act like Christ and not like the world. Let’s remember in all that we do to consider those that may be affected by our words, and/or our actions. Let’s do better.

If you love someone tell them

I love you

Destaynee